Good morning! How are you doing?
So, today I want to talk a little bit with you about the topic of integrity.
At each moment in our lives, we have to essential choices.
a) The choice we believe to be truly right
b) The choice that is easier & more convenient
At each moment we are presented with this essential choice. The choice between right & easy.
And depending on what kind of choices we’ve been doing before, we will naturally tend to lean towards that choice in the future. This is what we call a habit…
But no matter how much you’ve compromised on your deepest beliefs and no matter how deep you are in the pit of disillusionment & shame, please know that change is possible for you…
Just like we can be weak physically and eventually train our bodies to become stronger, we can also train our character by making this choice to do the right thing, over and over.
What one day was hard will have become easier & you will be ready for greater challenges.
BUT WHAT IS “RIGHT?”
I believe one way of determining this within yourself, is to ask yourself: “Will I be 100% proud of having made this decision when I look back upon it afterward?”
As I was growing up, my “right” muscle was really weak… I remember how I thought: “All the temptations in the world are stronger than my character… It’s impossible to stand. Im like a crumbling wall…”
There were many things that I was engaged in doing, which made me reluctant to look into peoples eyes…
This sense of shallow shame, if not dealt with, will lead to isolation & alienation…
So, find your “right” actions based on your beliefs about how a good person shows up in this world.
HOW TO BUILD CHARACTER?
On every occasion, we can ask ourselves: “What is the right thing to do here?”
Another question to ask ourselves is: “What would the best version of me do in this moment?”
A question to ask ourselves before challenging times: “What will be the easy thing to do? & What will be the right thing to do? What can I commit to, in order to make sure that the ‘right thing’ will be acted upon?”
Start building the house you want to live in later.
A house built on self-trust & integrity, on truth & courage, on love & understanding.
It wasn’t raining when Noah built the Ark.
– Daniel Galovan
Ps. Some great quotes.
“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”
– Hellen Keller
“Character is like a tree and reputation its shadow. The shadow is what we think it is and the tree is the real thing.”
– Abraham Lincoln
“The purpose of the struggle against sin and weakness is not to ‘win.’ Because that is not possible; it is t1o get better at waging it.”
– David Brooks